The cure for anything starts with understanding how it came to be in the first place. Immodesty stems from a lack of self love, resulting in a lack of self-worth. When a person lacks self-love and self-worth he/she tends to hunt for affirmation, looking to fit in, and at times, bowing to peer pressure in trying to fit in to a preconceived mold defined by others. All this person wants is to be loved and to be told that he/she is worthy. This person craves attention, any kind of attention, even negative attention. That’s why immodest people tend to act… Read more…
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Success in Dress! May the Lord Find Favor
Success seems to be defined by fashion magazine trends these days, and everyone wants to be successful! However, most of us are not fashion models on photo shoots. Rather, we’re everyday people trudging along in our communities, working, shopping and maybe, we exercise at the gym. Yet, how often do you see scantily clad people inappropriately dressed for a given occasion? Maybe its short shorts and a tank top in church, or a low cut blouse and tight jeans at work.
What we choose to wear makes a difference, not so much for others, but for ourselves, in the view…Read More…
Choice of Language Speaks Volumes!
Language choice is key. What you choose to say to others is important. Using foul language, for example, has no place in any society, except to display the poor character of the speaker. We hear off color jokes, privately told at the water cooler, as well as routines on Comedy Central (cable television). We overhear snide remarks made to a co-worker. We hear defamatory lyrics that top the music charts. The choice to use foul language is pervasive; so also is the cultural norm to accept it as part of the fabric of our society – a stained fabric, but nonetheless, a fabric of our society.
How we speak makes a difference, not so much for others, but for ourselves, in the view of our own self-worth. Read more…
Action Divulges Our True Character
Action speaks louder than words! Everyone has heard this phrase, but have you given it much thought in relation to modesty? How you behave around others is an indicator of your true character. Even the things that you do in the privacy of your own home can divulge your true character. What you think is private may not end up that way. A classic example is “sexting” – sending private pictures containing sexual poses to a supposed “lover” over the phone, only to see them splashed across Twitter and other social media sites.
How we conduct ourselves both privately and publicly, makes a difference, not necessarily for others, but more so for ourselves, in the view of our own self-worth. Read more…
Are You Decent? Is Your Soul Decent?
Are you decent? That is a question we usually ask if we want to know if someone is dressed before entering a room. I’m asking the same question, but with a slightly different slant. Is your soul decent? By that I mean, are you of the caliber of virtue where you exhibit restraint over your actions, dress and language because you value your own self-worth? Do you value what God thinks of you and your behavior more than the prescribed cultural norms? Or do you try to “fit in” by being lewd, scantily dressed and/or use colorful language, because… Read more…